IMHO, the Republicans should draw a very hard line in the sand at "live and let live". They'll stay out of gay people's bedrooms if the left-wing gays stop trying to promote their agenda through the schools. Since most gay people actually do not favor significant parts of the left-wing gay-activists' agenda, taking such a position would split the homosexual population.
This is EXACTLY the way Conservative gays want it. My state legislator is a conservative gay male, as is his partner.
They support President Bush and Matt Salmon for governor. They don't want government to get involed in their relationship in ANY way, pro or con. They fault the "Gay Fascist Agenda" for turning more Americans against gays.