Your doctor sounds like quite a good one if your daughter was comfortable with him re such a potentially embarrassing examination at such a young age. And also for saving your life.
I also had a mystery illness when I was young. Of all the dozens of doctors I saw, NOT ONE could find out what was wrong with me. Maybe if I had had your doctor...
You and your family are truly lucky to have found such a good doctor. He sounds like one in a million.
. My youngest son ( age 2 at the time )was taken to the ER one night because I thought he had eaten a bottle a children's vitamins. The ER dr was rude and very accusing towards me and called in a hospital sopcial worker ( basically accusing me a negligence ). I called my doctor at home in a panic and he came instantly and put this young resident and social worker in his and her place concerning my mothering skills. Turns out my son did not ingest the vitamins and that my older son ( age 7 at the time )had "flushed" them because he didn't like them and gave my younger son the empty bottle.
It is a shame that all families can't have relationships with their medical caregivers like the one we have with ours.