Yes...
Based on the sentiments you've expressed, I think it's accurate to say that we probably disagree with each other right down to the molecular level.
”…We all are totally unprepared to deal with this kind of situation & don't know, until it happens, what we will think or how we will react…”
You need to learn to speak for yourself. There are those for whom this statement, and the wind-blown philosophy it represents, is antithetical to their way of life.
”…Cut her some slack, OK…”
This remark convinces me that you aren’t even close to getting the point. Have yourself a great day.
"I"....would probably do exactly what this lady is doing, and thinking the killer is in the next county, run my errand, get my groceries or gas or whatever.
But if someone interviewed "ME", "I" would voice a tiny bit of regret that life had taken such a turn and "I" had to resort to this kind of subterfuge.
"I" am probably more prepared than you seem to give me credit for----although "I" still think it would be difficult to absolutely know how "I" would react in such an emergency.
There....is that better.