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You are wrong. My mother was sexually abused as a child and we all suffered for that abuse. She ended up in a mental ward at the age of 13(for 6 months). She has no memory of this time. She suffered from extremely low selfesteem which she unfortunately passed on to her kids, inspite of the fact that she was considered beautiful, had a beautiful voice and was a devout Christian. She never forgave herself and remained fearful of men her whole life.
Then to add to her trauma, she was repeatedly sexually harassed . A boy who she refused to date, laid in wait with a rifle to shoot any boy she went out with, one boss exposed himself to her on the job, a lesbian from her church tried to make moves on her and her psychiatrist told her that all she needed was a good man and that he was available anytime she was ready.

You misunderstood me. I assume your mother went through years of abuse, being forced to keep quite, ect. Prolonged abuse is very traumatic and requires treatment.

What I am talking about is maybe an uncle that seemed to linger too long washing his niece or nephews' nether regions, or being fondled by a coach, ect. These are troubling, and the perps should be punished, but I hardly see a need for long term therapy, or even short term therapy.

I'm not saying kids are resilient enough to get through years of coerced sexual abuse without help, but I'm pretty sure they can get over being "touched in their special place".

Hell, I remember when I was about 7 or 8 and I took gymnastics. Our teacher seemed to like spotting us. Nothing blatant, but it just seemed strange how he would keep his hands on us as we did our routines. Come to think of it, he seemed to always do the ole' hand-in-the-crotch lift to get us on and off of the rings.

Recalling it now, he probably was getting off on it. I think it should be looked into, if he is still teaching, but I don't want to sue him or anything. I find it gross, but there is nothing I can do about it, and I haven't ever lost a wink of sleep over it.

Had he been arrested and all us kids put into therapy, I'm pretty confident in saying that I would be far worse off then. It never entered my mind that something "BAD" was happening. If I was told that I was "ABUSED" and "VIOLATED" and needed help, there is no telling how screwed up I would be.