[Humidston]

Congratulations! You have now entered the TWILIGHT zone of pre-teens, LOL!

I've taken the liberty of pinging the "Mean Mommies List" for more advice, but I'd just like to say a few things (as an old pro..)

Limit the IM time on computer. Just so she doesn't realize you're doing it tho.. Interrupt her when she's on computer, etc. (You'll have to be sly to accomplish this without her knowing why.)

DON'T ban the boy unless you can see he's causing a negative effect on your daughter. I've found teens start mirroring behavior of their friends so guard who she's around carefully!

Invite him around the family. Size him up. Do something your daughter (and the family) really enjoy so she'll notice if he's bored or doesn't fit in. She'll really be grossed out if he "disses" what she loves to do.

Watch her like a hawk! And pray a lot too! Good luck and lots of prayers coming your way. Just remember, it's going to be this way for the next few years!

[Mo1]

Watch her like a hawk! And pray a lot too! Good luck and lots of prayers coming your way. Just remember, it's going to be this way for the next few years!

That just about sums it up .. and don't get caught because if she finds out that you don't trust her .. watch out!! .. PMS is not a good thing to deal with .. LOL

Oh and keep in good contact with other parents without your daughter finding out .. Took me years to figure out that little birdie that told my mother everything lived at the grocery story ..

My mom always finds out the best gossip when food shopping .. LOL

[glock rocks]

Invite him around the family. Size him up. Do something your daughter (and the family) really enjoy so she'll notice if he's bored or doesn't fit in. She'll really be grossed out if he "disses" what she loves to do.

this presupposes you have a good relationship with your daughter, and that the boy
lives indoors and actually has a "family" et cetera... which the child in this instance seems to...

LOL... this is such fun... follow with me (welcome to my nightmare)...

okay, some suggest talking to the boy's parents... like they know what their son (hey, he's just being a boy) is doing...
or further, like he's going to understand what the heck his folks are saying about what
you, the girl's parents said about what the girl and the boy were.... AAAAAAGGGHhhh. ya with me, so far?

okay, so now you find that this is no time to finally develop a loving one on one relationship with your daughter.

you don't have one? sorry, i've got no help for ya.

if you do, however, the answer is at the start of this post, in italics. it involves no coercion, no bravo sierra...
it's just right. kudos, humidston, from an honorary mean mommy.