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It is difficult to avoid being around your own child. I think, if it were me, I would welcome my kid into my home even if he were gay, but I would set a few house rules, and I certainly would make my disapproval known--lovingly. I would also be sure my kid (whatever age) respected other people--especially children--by not flaunting his immorality, at least in my presence. What he does away from me is a matter of his own conscience. He will answer to God all by himself on that.

I would also love my kid and visit him frequently if he were in jail. Still, you can bet he would hear about the error or his ways from me. I think you can love someone and think they are wrong at the same time. I don't think it is wise to choose willfully immoral or criminal friends. However, unless a family member cause too much chaos in your life--and that happens--I think you should stick their problems out with them (even the self-inflicted ones).

We are agreed on this point.

When my single mother used to vacation down here in Florida with her boyfriend, they stayed in a motel room. I never had any problem with them staying with me, but they would have had to sleep in separate beds. I don't apologize for my moral restrictions, and she didn't criticize them.

That was the price of familial tranquility.