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Where do you teach sunday school? I want to be sure we are never affiliated with a program that has such a low regard for children of sahm children. Couldn't be they are reacting off of your probably negative treatment to them and thier parents as soon as they walk in the door could it? Children are quite perceptive in my observation.

As for your little study, on what--maybe 20 or 30 children raised in a similar area by mothers with similar ideals, I could site for you just the opposite in my experience. The only thing it proves to me is that your church attracts prideful people if in fact your observations are accurate at all. Perhaps that is where you should look for the problem.

Regardless of your opinion about career women vs. stay at home moms, the majority of finger-pointing, negative comments, "studies", and the like seem to be from the stay at home camp, directed "downward" onto career women. It gets old. Dr. Laura is one of the biggest dishers out there, yet I still like nearly 100% of her ideas. The problem is that not everyone fits one mold or the other. For example, we might have a special-needs child, or maybe orphaned triplets in grade-school with costly medical needs, requiring both parents to work. Are these children better off left in the system? No. Do you see what I mean? There are good people on both sides of this issue. We just tire of people silently stabbing us on this issue, in the church, the media, and elsewhere.

We're Baptist. We have a high regard for stay at home moms and career women both. What resulted in our teaching the class was merely an observation that the MOST disruptive children in our class over the past year come from s-h-m families. We didn't predict it, anticipate it, or even have one thought about it until it unfolded before our eyes. If anything, the post was meant to suggest that not every shm/child is perfect, and not all working parent children are heathens. Some /// MANY would have us all believe otherwise. That's all.

Don't kid yourself, there are clicks of SHM's that frown on couples who both work. Its a status thing, or something. We had no experience with this whatsoever until we became more involved in church. We've been overseas, in orphanages, etc. I don't feel the need to share my life story with you to justify my observations, let's just say I do my share to aid others, yet I see a real snotty attitude out there that is most saddening. But I trust in the Lord, and he's who leads me, not them. If I insulted you, I do apologize.