[RogerFGay]

But not you and not me and not millions of others. I've been through it too and like you I pride myself in staying current on child support. ... The horror stories usually only occur when the paying parent neglects repeated payments. They accumulate a large balance that is subject to compound interest. It's all downhill from there.

You've been through it yourself. My guess is no, you haven't. I'm guessing your use of past tense here indicates that you were through with child support years ago and were never effected by the current system at all. And I'm wondering why, with the wealth of descripitive and informative material available, including the article we're discussing, you haven't caught on to the fact that things have changed? Are you intimate with someone who is receiving child support?

[Poohbah]

I've seen many recent divorces, and I can tell you this much: the horror stories start with repeated nonpayment of support.

I have a radical idea: pay the damn child support on time.

[RGSpincich]

You've been through it yourself. My guess is no, you haven't.

You would be wrong. Several times and with three exwives. I represented myself and had the judges treat me fairly. Reasonable deductions from my income were allowed for hardships and inflated hardships by my ex's were disallowed. You have to show up and not be combative to get where you want to go.

Things have not changed much in my local since 1992. The dissomaster program gets tweeked now and then but the percentages and the childcare allowances remain about the same as of a year ago.

Are you intimate with someone who is receiving child support?

I pay child support and I am supposed to receive it. I received custody through the courts of my son and do not receive the ordered amount from his mother. I pay now for one child who does not live with me. I have paid for three children living elsewhere in the past. One turned of age, one moved in with me and one payment still goes out. My point was that desperation is not an alternative, reason is.

A man has got to figure things will get better eventually, as they did for me, because CS is just temporary. It goes away, don't wreck your life over it. You are advocating that men act like the dumbshits they are portrayed to be by their exwives.