Tell me what you would do about the fathers and mothers who refuse to allow their ex any kind of visitation with their children!
As an aside to all, no one has the right to resist arrest, take hostages, brandish a weapon at innocent neighbors, and in general cause mayhem.
What is root here is the inability to make a living on the part of either pathetic parent (who should have thought long and hard about the child they would impact) long before it got to this state. One grasps to live like a parasite off the other, and the other is unable to take a job washing dishes or whatever to do his best.
Would you really feel, as an officer of a court of law, that placing a child with someone who lives in a car, or by the seat of his pants with regard to a job and home, is in that child's best interests? I couldn't.
Additionally, what kind of legal representation did this clown have? If he's like most men, he retreated when he should have charged.
You do exactly what I did, I continued paying child support, I called them when I could and they called me when they could. I tried the legal system to little effect but when they turned 17 they came to me on their own and told me that they loved me and it was as if the years of separation never happened. Yes men get shafted many times and before the feds stepped in a woman could move across the country without notice to anyone. I still had to pay but I never resented it and I was rewarded later because of it.