Well, we are currently hegemonic, like it or not. We start on a policy of making everybody fear us, we rule by fear. QED.
So many treacherous leaps. We are "hegemonic?" Therefore we "rule?" Over "everybody?"
We are morally, culturally, economically, and militarily dominant, therefore we influence and attract. We show remarkable restraint, more than any nation ever has with such dominance. Sometimes, too much restraint.
I never said that "everyone" needed to fear us. Those who would hate us and kill us need to fear us.
All of your talk of "ruling" appropriately makes me wonder what you think Hitler and Stalin's mistakes really were.