THAT'S THE PROBLEM! The definition keeps changing.
You just said, "in the way i define the term."
That doesn't cut it. I gave the proper definition for it (and it is true). Therefore I am a neocon and will always be one since I came from Left to Right. Any other definition is propaganda used to impugn. And I don't play that game.
Period.
When someone throws the first punch, that person can't complain if he or she gets beaten to within an inch of his or her life. In other words, don't start nuthin', won't be nuthin'.
Neo-con is a synonym with "national greatness" conservatism espoused by Mr. Kristol among others. That is always the way i have heard it defined and it is my definition.
By your definition, i am also a "neo-con" since i became rabidly right-wing about 1990 or so and I am over 40 years of age. But, I do not think your definition is the way it is used in the vernacular.