[marajade]

I didn't agree with her position to abort but she does have the legal right to make that decision whether I or anybody else likes it or not...

I can certainly understand with all the stress how the misscarriage occurred...

I'm sorry to hear about your misfortunes and want you to know that I feel they have brought relevant insights into the discussion.

[Catspaw]

It may not have been stress, but that may have been a contributing factor to the miscarriage. Lots of things can happen during a pregnancy (the stats I've seen range from 30% to 35% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage). My dearest friend lost a set of twins because the placenta kept implanting, then would detach. When she finally lost the babies at 5 months, they found out that they had significant genetic defects. Another good friend had a stillborn. My sister-in-law lost one baby from a set of twins in her 3rd month, but carried the other baby to term--she's now a fiesty four year old (no one told me or my hubby that his sister was still pregnant--when I found out she was shopping for baby furniture, I thought they were doing it to humor her). My aunt's last baby died interutero in her 7th month. Three of my sisters have miscarried. Mine? They just didn't know. Given that my only child is a grown-up, they just didn't have the technology to find out at the time. Now they do, or they can get a very good idea. But it does nothing to ease the pain of the loss of a baby.