So? What is the point of saying this. If you can't make a man do something, then why do we assume we can make a woman do something? Is it because women are easier to target for punishment?
My point is that society demonizes single mothers. But these are the women who did not abort. And they did not abandon their kids. They procreated the same as the man did, but then they commit the "crime" (in society's eyes) of sticking around afterward.
Look at it this way. The kids are here. The woman is providing some level of care. If she were not there, we would have to pay to have someone take care of the kids in the foster care systme (many kids are not adopted). Therefore, the mother is SAVING the taxpayer some money.
As far as who is responsible for the kid being here in the first place, that "blame" is shared by both biologcial parents. Therefore, we should address the problem before conception occurs. We don't like to do that because that would include talking about male responsibility which is a taboo subject in our culture. We prefer to wait until the "problem" is already upon us, and demonize the person who is present and accounted for, and totally ignore the parent who a.w.o.l.
Read this thread. Read ANY thread about welfare. The woman is blamed. Men are completely off the radar screen as being part of the problem. How does this square logically with the facts of procreation? It doesn't.
What "punishment" are they getting? They commit acts of irresponsibility and then expect the taxpayers to take care of them. These same taxpayers who work hard for their money, pay for their groceries, housing, insurance, as well as pay babysitters, just to make ends meet. As I've stated all along both the men and the women are irresponsible. The courts need to go after these fathers and demand child support and follow up on it. Too often the courts don't, or women aren't reporting who the father is - to protect him, ironic isn't it? Yet it does happen.
If it's harder to raise kids because you can't get a free long-term ride from the taxpayers then people will have to think twice about the decisions that they make. Adoption was in full force in the 50's - 60's because parents who couldn't care for their children or made irresponsible decisions and couldn't financially support their children put them up for adoption. They did what was best for thier children, not for their own selfish reasons. Guess what? Young people made a point to be more responsible or face the harsh consequences that life hands us.