I know you didn't direct your question to me, but I'm throwing in my 2 cents because I have given this alot of thought.
We are to avoid drunkeness, which to me means abusive behavior.. not wine at dinner, a cocktail afterward or an after dinner smoke. God does tell us to obey man's law when it does not go directly against His law.
That's the best I could come up with.
Actually, that was Paul, who's teachings were not quite what Christ taught - but that's a totally different debate.
Thank you, dear. I'm sure AJ will come up with worse. . .