Kim have you ever taken any Family counseling or Family dynamics classes?
If you had you would know that a family "secret" is carefully hidden. It is the elephant in the living room..NO one talks about it
Usually these kids are super achievers.
If you read the liturature on this you often see that they repress the abuse..sometimes not remembering it for years. They describe it as a splitting of their personalities . When daddy is abusing them they go somewhere else mentally so it is not them being used...
No Kim these kids do not wear signs on their backs
One of my best friends was sexually abused by an uncle for years and did not remember it till she was an adult..she is sweet and loving and has 5 degrees...and she is a nun.....(do you wonder why she made that choice?)