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The 'right thing' tears at a family
Seattle Post-Intelligencer ^ | July 8, 2002 | Chris McGann

Posted on 07/09/2002 12:48:48 AM PDT by Alan Chapman

Trever Palmer, 17, says he felt nervous and slightly heroic the night he picked up the phone, dialed 911 and informed the King County Sheriff's Office that his father was growing marijuana.

Minutes later, when Aaron Palmer, a Covington computer programmer, returned home from an evening of swimming laps at the local pool, deputies arrested him. They later found more than a dozen marijuana plants growing in a hidden room in the garage and booked the single father of three into the King County Jail on drug charges.

Two months later, as Trever Palmer prepares for his last year of high school, the 140-pound wrestler is still grappling with the consequences of his actions and talked about them in an interview yesterday.

Although police lauded him for doing the right thing, he says half his relatives are mad at him. He's "found out who my friends really are" while trying to avoid Kentwood High School classmates who scorned him, calling him "a weasel" and names much worse than that.

Palmer made the 911 call largely because of a lesson he learned in a Junior ROTC ethics course: "Stand up for what you believe in, don't follow the crowd and be your own person."

He still thinks he did the right thing.

"I felt like I was saving my sister and brother from this guy," he said. "You can only put up with so much."

But his family is torn apart, and his 15-year-old sister may not see the 911 call as such a brave act.

The night her father was taken away, "she really didn't speak much to me," Palmer said. "She was crying and trying to get her stuff together."

Today, she "just kind of avoids me," he said.

Palmer said his 7-year-old brother didn't know what was going on.

Palmer, who is spending part of the summer with his grandparents in Pennsylvania, plans to live with his best friend's family until he graduates and joins the Air Force. His sister and brother are staying with a cousin. Their mother, who is divorced from their father, is unemployed and "doesn't have room for them in her apartment," Palmer said.

Palmer's sister could not be reached last night, and Palmer's father did not return phone calls. Aaron Palmer, 38, was released on $5,000 bail shortly after his arrest and pleaded not guilty last week to a felony charge of drug manufacturing, the South County Journal reported. He faces up to five years in prison.

The boy said many of his relatives can't comprehend his motives for calling police.

"It sucks," Palmer said last night. "I was really hoping that they would understand. It's kind of like that hole in (me) that needs to be filled."

He has tried to explain himself to his father's parents, who "kind of understand, but they are upset."

When he called police, he said, he wasn't considering what would happen to his family. "I kind of figured that would fall into place."

What went through his mind?

"I thought: no guts, no glory," he said.

He thought marijuana growing was taking over his father's life. Instead of spending time doing things with the family, his father tended to his plants -- moving the pots around and watering. He said that on two occasions, people visited the house on account of the marijuana.

Living around drugs is "the part that no kid should have to go through, and I didn't want (my younger brother) to go through it."

There were other conflicts. He thought his father paid attention to his sister's accomplishments, while ignoring his own. And he thought his ROTC courses, which were based on Marine Corps leadership training, put him at odds with his ex-Army father "on different military perspectives."

The "stand-up" message from his ROTC course echoed in his head.

"That set it straight, why I should do it," Palmer said. "For one thing, it's illegal."

He said another factor was the emotions stirred by reading "The Red Badge of Courage" for an English class. He said he was impressed by how a character in the book, a soldier named Nick, discovered his own bravery.

"He stood up for what he believed in," Palmer said.


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; Government; US: Washington
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I can see it now. Children calling the cops because they found an illegal gun in daddy's closet.
1 posted on 07/09/2002 12:48:48 AM PDT by Alan Chapman
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To: *libertarians
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2 posted on 07/09/2002 12:49:00 AM PDT by Alan Chapman
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To: Alan Chapman
bflr
3 posted on 07/09/2002 12:52:35 AM PDT by JediGirl
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Its not the same thing. Sure one should respect and honor one's parents, but if a parent were running a meth lab in the home or sexually molesting a child, I'd do what this kid did. There are circumstances when parents are not always right and have to be held accountable for breaking the law even though God knows we love them. I think the rule of thumb shouldn't be is "blood thicker than water," but "am I sure I'm doing the right thing." Yeah, that boy paid a terrible price for calling the cops on his dad but he was raised to do the right thing. Or do we make an exception where family is involved? What if a parent or child committed a murder? Family values should mean doing the right thing, every time.
4 posted on 07/09/2002 12:56:14 AM PDT by goldstategop
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What an inspiring story. I pray I raise my children with the right morals, that if this were something they were faced with, they would make the same decision.

The family should be proud of this boy instead of ridiculing him.

5 posted on 07/09/2002 12:56:19 AM PDT by trussell
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Instead of spending time doing things with the family, his father tended to his plants -- moving the pots around and watering. He said that on two occasions, people visited the house on account of the marijuana.

I can't exactly excuse this, but what if it had been azaleas or daffodils? Or rare breed dogs that sell for $3000 a pup?

6 posted on 07/09/2002 1:09:29 AM PDT by HiTech RedNeck
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Those are not crimes and I haven't heard of any one being arrested for them.
7 posted on 07/09/2002 1:11:30 AM PDT by goldstategop
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The criticism, note, was for wasting time on the activity. Not for its being illegal.

Did the boy ever just ask his father to stop?
8 posted on 07/09/2002 1:16:20 AM PDT by HiTech RedNeck
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As noble a youth as the young Afghani, turning his mother in to the taliban for secretly having a tube of lipstick in the house.
9 posted on 07/09/2002 1:17:51 AM PDT by per loin
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Agreed. It sounds more like the boy wanted revenge for his father's paying more attention to his sister and this was a good way to exact that revenge. What a sweetheart.
10 posted on 07/09/2002 1:19:43 AM PDT by JediGirl
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There were other conflicts. He thought his father paid attention to his sister's accomplishments, while ignoring his own. And he thought his ROTC courses, which were based on Marine Corps leadership training, put him at odds with his ex-Army father "on different military perspectives."

He certainly has his attention now!

11 posted on 07/09/2002 1:20:03 AM PDT by pubmom
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To: HiTech RedNeck
Well he should have let his father know. But in some situations that's not always possible. If its a serious crime family should never be a cop out to not doing the right thing.
12 posted on 07/09/2002 1:20:45 AM PDT by goldstategop
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This kid is a mindless robot who will be great at following orders, no matter how evil they are, no doubt, for his whole career.

He was mad at his dad, so he called the cops. Was he thinking of his dad's welfare? Does the dumbshit think that 5 years in the slammer will be good therapy for his old man?

Of course, dad shouldn't have been growing pot in the backyard in the first place. But that's why they call it dope.

Growing weed is hardly on a par with child molesting or other criminal behavior. The fact that it's against the law is enough for some morons to praise this punk for destroying what was left of his family, such as it was.

Sounds like the old man wasna't bothering anybody. Just liked to smoke pot. Fans of the all-knowing government will applaud this boy.

I think he's a disgusting rat.

13 posted on 07/09/2002 1:21:19 AM PDT by Grim
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I think so too.
14 posted on 07/09/2002 1:21:38 AM PDT by pubmom
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To: per loin
As noble a youth as the young Afghani, turning his mother in to the taliban for secretly having a tube of lipstick in the house.

Oh, wow, man, like, I totally know what you mean, you know?

15 posted on 07/09/2002 1:23:01 AM PDT by Jeff Chandler
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To: pubmom
Sounds like it was payback for father not giving him attention his sister had been getting. No wonder no one thinks his motives where completely disinterested. I can just see his father's defense attorney say to a jury the son was less interested in doing the right thing in stopping his father's growing marijuana than it was to settle a family feud by inviting the cops to come in and take his side of it.
16 posted on 07/09/2002 1:23:33 AM PDT by goldstategop
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attorney

You said a bad word.

17 posted on 07/09/2002 1:27:56 AM PDT by Jeff Chandler
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It sucks," Palmer said last night. "I was really hoping that they would understand.

Just tell them your a transsexual and like gay sex, hate god, and have fun with animals. THAT they will understand. I almost posted an article yesterday but it was too sad and have since forgotten where it was - parents whacked out on meth killed their 3 mo old baby with a blow torch. I used to be a deputy and saw some terrible things people did when they were high on something. Very sad.
18 posted on 07/09/2002 1:29:34 AM PDT by chance33_98
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"Hi, 911? My mommy copied her friend's Steel Magnolias onto a blank tape she bought, and I saw the FBI warning at the beginning. Can you come over, or do I need to call them?"

Little rat finks.

19 posted on 07/09/2002 1:29:57 AM PDT by toenail
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To: Jeff Chandler
Uh oh. Unless you ever need one Jeff. ;-)
20 posted on 07/09/2002 1:30:20 AM PDT by goldstategop
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