Posted on 07/02/2002 9:12:09 AM PDT by Stand Watch Listen
That's actually pretty convenient in a market or other public place. Leave the place, count to 10, and let somebody else kidnap your child. Great advice Gershoff!
Woo hoo! High five for that comment, of which I see very few, even among "conservatives".
Amazing, isn't it?...
I love and adore women, not the least my dear wife...But I truly believe there are areas, (certain jobs,professions) they should not be in.
I'm a curmudgeon, and having been through a couple of relationships... there are certain areas women should not be in.
JMHO, but this is where the femis have brought the rest of us, and I refuse to abide it.
FMCDH
FMCDH
AWESOME MOM! Good for you! Mortification is a great discipline/teaching tool. I've done the same thing to my child and don't regret it, either. You were right on the money.
That is absolutely untrue. Perhaps it was for your male parent & grandparent, but it stems from other emotional problems, such as immaturity, inappropriate expression of anger, etc.
And regarding your assertion that your son is a good kid BECAUSE he was not spanked, well the testimonial simply carries no water. All children are different, some require a swat on the behind to get their attention, others do not. Our oldest daughter was one to flop her big hairy toe over the line every time we drew one. She needed spankings and she got them. Our second daughter rarely challenged our authority, and when she did, a simple time out or scolding was enough to correct her behavior. BOTH of these girls are accomplished, honor roll students, and well-adjusted in every way. All kids are different, you lucked out. I think what you need is one of those "wild kids" (sometimes referred to as "willful") to change your tune.
I believe you and your husband and your Pastor are correct, and think your female friends would be ballistic about asking for "advice/permission" for anything.......JMHO
FMCDH
Ah, the wooden spoon! At our house, these are magical. After being used ONLY ONCE, they magically bring about good behavior by simply grabbing it out of the utensil crock on the counter and waving it around. Truly a wonder!!
Hitting a child teaches hitting, period. Hitting may be appropriate to avoid a life threatening injury (Get out of the street!) but no life was threatened with the flying Ragu. My folks used your discipline method, as do I, and I've never raised a hand to my eight year old. I certainly raise my voice, but most effective is a frown, a sigh, and "I'm SO dissapointed in your behavior!"
This Mom's difficulty here was her waspish, wimpy, please lower your voice, as if it was a favor to be asked! This kid is crying out for firm guidance. He does not need to be raised by his Very Best Buddy. Parenting makes you automatically the "bad guy" and if your kids don't tell you at least twice that you are the Worst Parent In The World, you aren't doing your job!
I think I spotted the problem.
Heh heh heh....I'm trying to remember the line from Johnny Dangerously..."My sister hit me once...just ONCE!"
Is that right?....somebody help me here.
FMCDH
The operartive word here is COULD. This women has never had any children, but has read a lot of books. When my first child turned one, my pediatrician told me that it was now time to set my daughter's limits. I needed to tell her no and I needed to reinforce that no at all times and spank if necessary.
My kids always know where they stand with me. I haven't had to spank them much. Seemed as though I could threaten a spanking as easily as to have given one. But, they learned that there are always consequences to bad behavior, and they didn't want to be on the brunt end of that deal.
There is nothing more sad than to see a kid who does not know what his boundaries are. Almost as sad is to see a parent who has had their rightful parenting stolen from them from the "hands are for loving" crowd.
FMCDH
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