[goldstategop]

A man can have sex without feelings and with no commitment. I suspect most men would want to be with a woman who cares for them rather than have cheap sex. So for the singles in the dating world there's the question: are we too cynical to even have a monogamous relationship anymore? Sorry for sounding like Carrie Bradshaw on Sex & The City but I couldn't resist. In our trying to find the love of our lives, we've become in one way or another without realizing it, sexual anthropologists. Love, commitment, relationships, marriage - bliss between men and women. It all sounds like something said from a land and a time long ago, like in a fairy tale.

[hopespringseternal]

You can make love, have sex, or just f*** each other. Cynicism puts you squarely in that third category.

All too many people never sit down and figure out what it is that they really want. Instead, they take cues from popular culture, i.e. the television and just go with the flow.

Women who decide they really want a home and family are belittled and scorned in popular culture as deadbeats. Men who want a home and family are ridiculed as being either timid and weak, or overbearing buffoons looking for a slave.

So marriage and family is portrayed as the domain of losers in popular culture.

As a result, sex becomes something you do to someone else, not with them, and that goes double for men. It isn't the center of marriage and making a family. It is a drug, and you have no more care for the other person than any other pill you might pop.

Happiness and contentment is not possible without maturity, and you cannot mature if you fail to make big decisions involving big commmitment.