No, this is not what bothers me. I have nothing against fantasy. What bothers me is when people dictate to me what my sexuality is or is not or what it should or should not be.
IMO a valid criticism of porn is that it homogenizes sex to the point were indivual sexuality is not only not valued it is not tolerated. It turns into McSexuality a fad or a pretense. [The same thing has happened in food, music, home decor, clothing, etc]
Women have their own forms of fantasy. That is why romance novels are so popular. I'm sure many of them do not reflect the reality of men's sexuality either. As long as it is remains fantasy that's fine.
WHO IS DICTATING TO YOU? Certainly not me!!!
Sure they do. But no one is dictating that to them either.
I think what bothers you is that some may not approve of what you do sexually, or might not condone what you do, or might not agree with what you do sexually. If you go out and have sex with every guy you date, then I wouldn't condone that, or agree with that or approve of that. That's my right, as what you do is yours. But it would certainly not be a case of dictating to you! You would just be making your own choice.