Posted on 06/17/2002 4:32:23 PM PDT by Sub-Driver
Now the hubby always takes a rather large bankroll, for his two weeks in Chicago...and he always gives me an equally large bankroll, for my spending pleasure....ebay, watch out...
When he returns from Chicago, I dont grill him about where his money went, and he does not grill me about where my money went, and we are both exceedingly happy...
In the fall, we take the vacation time together...and then we need an enormous bankroll for the two of us...
We enjoy each other, enjoy our family, and enjoy life...but we also enjoy our times apart, and our separate spendy ways...
In my experience, when it comes to children, the best of plans can go straight to hell.
Like you. I have no children yet. However, I am recently married, and hope to in the near future. With my previous experience with kids, however, I have learned to never make chest-beating, bragadocious statements about how I will keep my kids more under control and well behaved than the next guy. Kids are hotwired differently than adults. They have a whole different agenda than you or I, and all the discipline and rightous, good Christian upbringing in the world isn't necessarily going to make then into little well-behaved saints. I just figure it's a learn as you go process. Good parenting will EVENTUALLY make good offspring, but there are alot of "pulling yer hair out" years in between. Be wary of any parent who self-rightously says otherwise.
The poor little tykes are begging for a remedial class in leather dress accessories posterier appreciation if they talk like that to me.
LOL. Well, luckily I am the biological child of just such a mom!
Geezzz .. 700 .. doesn't he know you can get one at Radio Shack for under 100 .. The hubby has one also .. LOL
Has a train set also
The thing is, I never noticed this in her before we got married and even in the first few years of our marriage. It wasn't really even until after she had our boy (now 7) that this started to happen. She apparently developed some kind of nervous system disorder called jiritsu shinkei shicchosho (autonomic imbalance?). According to her, this means that she easily gets depressed and if she does get depressed easily loses control of her emotions and herself (can't stop herself from yelling at me, et al).
Well, that with the recent discovery of her adenomyosis I really am trying to have patience with her, but my patience wears thin when she uses her conditions (imagined or real) as an excuse to spend money like there is no tomorrow.
I suppose divorce is the easiest solution to this, but I don't want to lose my kid. And, if I am the one that files for a divorce, there is little chance that I would get to keep my kid. Here in Japan, the kids almost always go the mom and then the kids almost never see there dad again. I would like to think that my wife wouldn't keep me from my kid, but who knows what will happen after a divorce. She is the kind of person who likes to exact vengeance for even the pettiest of things (chip-on-the-shoulder type thing). I dread the thought of what she might do should we get a divorce. I mean, I would probably end up back in the States and when it came time to have my boy come over for his yearly visit, she would probably forget to put him on the plane or something.
Also, I believe in the sanctity of marriage. My parents got divorced when I was 12 and I don't want to do that to my kid if at all possible. My wife is a good wife and a mother most of the time. She is a very nice and friendly person. She just has an occasional nasty streak and has yet to add words like "thrifty" to her vocabulary.
I also believe in the power of God to help resolve any issue (understanding, of course, that God's thought are higher than mine and the result of God's intervention won't take the shape I have in mind…), and, at the advice of a friend, I am trying to kneel down in prayer with my wife both morning and night. Yesterday I had to say, "Let’s pray" about 50 times before she finally agreed. Sigh...
Anyway, thanks to you all for listening me. It is kind of hard to go to my family about this because just about all of them have been divorced at least once. The first thing out of their mouths is "Get a Divorce!" when I explain my situation.
so she thought, um, no, 49 times before she gave in?
i'm sorry, i married a Sicilian. she'd have kicked my butt around the kitchen if i'd suggested, much
less required, she do anything that i asked. ...and that's after 19 years....
hmmmm.
In post 95 you're talking about FISHING??? WHEN? WHERE? Anybody need my phone number??? ;-)
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