....your attitude alarms me because, at first while reading your profile it appeared you were a very devoted and perceptive man ,then I eyed the fact you are working with at risk young men.
....May I ask is your attitude the same when working with them, as your statement here and what you are telling them the alternative is?
We don't discuss it, and part of my attitude stems from my observation of many parents and the girlfriends of these young men.