No, I was perfectly serious. You sound bitter, cynical, and in great need of " dating lessons " . You also sound as though you don't know how to chat up a girl ; let alone date one. You need help.
I know a great many women who find their husband or boyfriend " handsome " , when that isn't really the case. What makes a man " handsome " , in their eyes ? The man's intelligence and how he treats them ! Few men would EVER claim that a woman is beautiful, when she is plain.
You need to first know what it is you most want in a date / mate and be realistic . Then, you need to cultivate your best qualities , learn some social graces, and go to places that the type of woman you'd like to date will probably be. If you are having problems getting women to even talk to you, your approach must stink , you don't know how to dress. and / or you are going after the wrong type of girl.
I'm glad you and your husband are happy. Would you mind, then, sharing some of that happiness here?