In an attempt to enlighten you, although I would probably have more likelihood of success at bench-pressing an elephant, a marriage is not a perpetual compact, it ends with the lives of those who made the compact.
And yet few enter a marriage with the idea of it being finite. It is assumed that it will continue indefinitely, which is what the framers assumed about the Union. As marriage should be the palladium for happiness between a couple, so Union is the palladium of safety and security of this nation -- as George Washington said.
One aspect of the neo-reb rant is its unreasonable nature.
Your whole position involves many camels passing through the eyes of many needles.
Walt