Stalin's ideology was that he believed Stalin and his friends should control everything, including the means of production. Hitler's ideology was that he believed Hitler should control everything, including the means of production.
The ideologies are very similar, except for a small detail which made them quite incompatible despite their similarities.
I agree. However we try to understand or classify Extremism we can only recognise it for what it is.
Excellent observation.
Consider two street gangs fighting over the same neighborhood. They may be enemies, but that does not put them on opposite ends of the political spectrum.