ANOTHER ANGLE: THEORETICALLY SPEAKING....
If you were just hearing about these people for the first time, and knew nothing of the case, just who was around that night...and a little background... would you still choose DW to be on trial?
- Brenda - Mom who enjoys nights out and is an all around friendly person, who gets high and drinks, and is designated driver for friends, frequently locks kids in house to smoke or whatever in Garage, who leaves her kids under 10 alone to run out for pizza, and who does not check on children when alarm is going off and doors are open.
- Damon - Dad who lets wife control him. Watches his children while stoned and drinking. Who has locked children in the house while in garage, smoking pot, or drinking or whatever. Who had an affair with one of the people (Barbara) from the night in question. Who does not check on kids when alarm is going off and doors are open. Who lies to police about his character. Who possibly vacuums stairwell shortly after disappearance of his daughter, who stated that he closed off the room, the very day he is let back into the home, because "he KNEW something terrible had happened in there". (Yes, he said that in court)
- DW - Neighbor, has adult parties, interested in Brenda and her girlfriends. Has Adult parties, wanted Brenda and Damon's phone number. Buys Brenda and Friends drink(s). Been married, is divorced, had girlfriend with a teenager, is wealthy, owns a big, expensive, clean home. That went away shortly after disappearance of Danielle. Has RV.
- Denise? Friend of Brenda's, visits frequently, gets high, likes to party.
- Barbara - Friend of Brenda, has slept with Damon, likes to party, get high and drink. Lays on bed with Damon and kisses him that night.
- Rich - Likes to get high and drink, Sells drugs to Van Dam's... visits that night.
- Keith - Also likes to get high and drink, must be in the mood to have some fun, takes Viagra at bar before going to Brenda and Damon's, Hoping to get lucky, but doesn't... or does he?
- Bill Libby - Was invited to go to Dad's since wife was out of town, sells pot to Brenda and Damon, was supposed to go snowboarding with Damon on following Sunday.
If this were all that you had to go on.. who would you look at first. If you had no fingerprints or blood to go on. Add that in after you make your choice, does it work?
HERE ARE SOME POINTS TO PONDER
From the Van Dam Memory Division......
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Numerous questions from day one about the use of illegal drugs by the van Dams............CONFIRMED
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Numerous allegations that numerous adults were in the van Dam residence, Feb 1/2.......CONFIRMED
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Numerous allegations of extramarital activity............Damon/Barb in the bedroom.........CONFIRMED
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Numerous examples that Brenda VD and Westerfield were "acquainted"........................CONFIRMED
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Van Dams' arrange for the services (paid/free?) of a Public Relations/Media Consulting firm......CONFIRMED
Major points of consideration, which have arisen in the past few days.
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Original memorial on Dehasa, moved to more convenient location, at the request of the VD's????????????????
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Reports of "by appointment only" shopping sprees to Nordstrom???????????????????????
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Many yet unrevealed details of extracurricular activity between VD's and Barb, Denise, Rich and Keith??????????????
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Significant drug use by the VD's and their acquaintances, possible dealer connection??????????????????
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