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"... this is a behavior, not an immutable trait..."

Agreed. There is no evidence of a "gay" gene. But that's not what pro-homo web sites are telling impressionable kids. For example:

A Link to Oasis Magazine from Youth.org:

I don't want to be lesbian or bisexual. Why should I go through this?:

"Hi Chris,
How can one decide whether or not they are bi or straight. It's not something I asked for. Where does the line between natural adolescent curiosity and, and bisexuality begin. It's not like anything I've ever had to figure out before. But, if I'm just bi, can't I just push it away, like any other emotional baggage. Why should I put myself through the hell of hurting my parents and getting disowned my half my family. Can't I just push it away like any other problem. A lot of people just push parts of themselves away, so is this any different?
Debra

"Hi Debra,

You have quite a road in front of you, Debra, and it's better to get started on it sooner, rather than later. The fact is, you don't get to decide whether you're gay, lesbian or bisexual. That was decided by the time you were born, and is an innate part of you, and here to stay. So, you can either fight it, and live an unhappy life where you are afraid all the time that people are going to find out about your "secret," where you deny yourself the happiness that comes from expressing your true self and finding someone as a friend or partner who is like you. Or you can find a path to accept, and then celebrate, this gift that you have been given, and live life openly.
If you are bisexual, the thing is it is not emotional baggage (and I hope you realize that it's not a good idea to just push away emotional baggage, either -- it's something that is usually best dealt with, confronted, and resolved). It is, rather, a biological and genetic part of your very being, of who you are. And just like being born with a particular skin color, that might make it harder to get by in some areas, or finding out that you're left handed and living in a right-handed world, you will do best to just get over it, and deal with it.
Why do you assume that you will be putting your parents through Hell? Why do you think they will disown you? It may be that they will have a hard time with it, some parents (but not most), do. But if they love you, they will find a way, they will work to get the education they need about what it means to be queer, and how to help you live a happy life. Because, for most parents, that's what they want most for their kids.
I recommend starting with the book "Free Your Mind" by Ellen Bass and Kate Kaufmann. Then "Outing Yourself" by Michelangelo Signorile. Those are both great "primers" on being gay, and Signorile's book takes an excellent, step-by-step approach to coming to terms with yourself -- which is the essential first step -- and then leads you to the point, which could take many months, where you can finally look in a mirror, say "I'm happy that I'm gay" and then take the next step out the door to tell your family and friends.
When you're ready for the next steps, you may want to find a gay youth group in your area, or go to your school GSA. Talking with other guys and girls like you, who have confronted similar issues, can often help you get through this more easily."
Take care,
Chris"

"THE GAY GENE: GOING, GOING … GONE" by Yvette C. Schneider

"CONCLUSION
Scientists have not even come close to proving a genetic or biological cause for homosexuality, yet homosexual activists continue to say that sexual activity between members of the same sex is "just the same" as race or gender. Using "biology" as a stamp of legitimacy, activists have pushed for special rights, from sex-partner subsidies to "gay marriage" to adoption. Without scientific evidence to support such claims, it is wrong and dangerously misleading to say that people are born homosexual and cannot change."
Yvette C. Schneider, a former lesbian who is now married, is a policy analyst in the cultural studies department at Family Research Council.

"A Change In Thinking"

"The bottom line is this: No child is born to be a homosexual. Homosexuals are made, and they can be unmade. This is the truth that more psychiatrists and psychologists need to acknowledge. This is the truth that the American people need to know, parents of young children need to heed and politicians need to understand."

Is Homosexuality Genetic?

Research Group Warns Schools of Homosexual Propaganda

"Schools should let their students know that the differences between the homosexual and heterosexual cultures are many and profound, contrary to assertions by homosexual advocacy groups who seek to portray homosexuality as something innate and essentially without risk, a leading psychological group said.
Indeed, a same-sex male couple rarely stays together if the partners are not open to permitting each other to have outside sexual contacts, the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) said in a recent mailing to 15,300 public school superintendents around the United States.
The mailing "seeks to correct the misinformation that is being promoted by these homosexual advocacy groups that have an incredible influence on the public education system," said Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, president of NARTH and a proponent of reparative therapy for homosexuals who want to change.
"What we're trying to say to school supervisors is, 'don't just rely on pro-gay information sources to make your decisions.' All our stuff is well grounded scientifically," he said. NARTH is a non-religious scientific organization whose 1,000 members include psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists..."

Doctor Gives Affidavit In Fistgate Case

Outlines the "significant medical and health risks" associated with what was taught to students at Fistgate.

"...As a practicing physician and member of the Physician Resource Council of the Massachusetts Family Institute, I object to information being presented to children and adolescents by educators intended to portray homosexuality as a healthy alternative lifestyle, while deliberately omitting or disregarding the significant medical and health risks inherent to homosexual sex and the gay lifestyle.
Under the rubric of diversity training, HIV prevention and "safer schools," the Massachusetts Department of Education has permitted the exposure of young students in public schools to sexually explicit, morally offensive, and medically risky material intended to encourage them to question, explore and expand their sexuality. These misguided efforts place young people at risk for the well known and sometimes life threatening consequences of homosexual sex and promiscuity, not the least of which are human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection and Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS)..."

Psychiatrist "Reassures" Parents About Lesbian Experimentation

"...The article describes a parent-faculty meeting at The Spence School, a private enclave overlooking Central Park, where several eighth-grade girls had declared themselves "bisexual." The school called in a Harvard-educated psychiatrist, Dr. Justin Richardson--himself a gay man--to reassure the parents that lesbian experimentation is common, and that it was too soon to know if they would be lesbians or heterosexuals.
At the all-girl Brearly School two weeks earlier, Dr. Richardson told a parent group to advise their daughters as young as nine years old that they, too, may have sex with other girls in the future. "It is a good idea," he said, "to mention that people have sex with members of the same sex sometimes, and that when they grow up they may have friends that do that--and that it may be something that they themselves do."
"A small but growing number of students," the Times article reported, "have come out at these schools, or at least say that bisexuality is stylish." Parents are concerned, and Dr. Richardson--"pedigreed, carefully-spoken, determinedly nonthreatening--has become the schools' gay issues consultant of choice" because he is "sane and clear," according to the Spence headmaster..."

Parental Notification Laws regarding Gay & Lesbian Programs for Youths?

"Parents have the original, primary, and inalienable right to educate their children, and it is the place of schools to assist them. But rights not asserted are rights lost by default. Parental rights are not self-enforcing; they have to be exercised by vigilant and concerned parents."

- Arthur J. Delaney, “The Grotesque World of Today’s Sex Education,” New Oxford Review, p. 16, May 1996.