Wouldn't that be multiamorous?

Don't know, let's go to the Swingers Handbook......

SWINGING 101:
A Beginner's Guide to Recreational Sex
by Honey Rivers (written with the late John Rivers)

Topics covered are the HOWS and HOW-NOTS of swinging. What to expect - before, during and after your first experience, your first party and longer. Also, a list of pertinent questions to ask yourself and your partner before your first experience.

COMMENTS ABOUT SWINGING 101:

"John & Honey Rivers are perfecting orgy orientation to an art form".
Paul Miller - The Miller Report

"This book is a must for all couples and singles who have questions about the swinging lifestyle!"
Texas Connection Magazine

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SWINGING 101: A Beginner's Guide to Recreational Sex
$12.95

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Swinging Etiquette

In the world of swinging, what to do, when to do it and how to do it is very difficult to understand because there aren’t any rule books to help you along. Beginners have trouble because it’s all so new to them, but even experienced swingers have problems from time to time over how to handle certain situations. We've run across many of these situations, so we'll try to help you along.

OPEN SWINGING VS CLOSED SWINGING VS SOFT SWINGING

We are often asked by those curious about the lifestyle about the difference between open swinging and closed swinging. In swinging, you have many different options and this is an important one. You can choose either or both, whatever works best for you. Here’s a brief idea of what is involved:

OPEN SWINGING

Swinging (having sex) in the same room (possibly in the same bed) with your primary partner and another couple. The male will be with the female of the other couple and the female will be with the male of the other couple. There may or may not be any sexual contact between the females (depending on their choice of bisexuality). This is the choice of couples who prefer to be together at all times. In Open situations, there can be no question of what is said or done, because everything is done together for all the parties concerned. This is also the choice of voyeurs/exhibitionists who enjoy watching their mate while experiencing sexual enjoyment themselves. This situation can quite possibly lead to some variations of group sex and techniques that are not available with the closed swinging.

CLOSED SWINGING

This involves participating in swinging (again having sex) in a separate room from your primary partner. The male will be with the female of the other couple in one room and the female with the other male in a different room or at a different time (but still together - not swinging "separately). This allows the freedom (or the privacy) to ‘discover’ the person in a deeper way without the distractions of another couple in the same room. Closed swinging also allows the freedom to act out various fantasies without feeling you are being watched.

SOFT SWINGING

Soft swinging involves teasing and foreplay with another couple prior to returning to your own partner for actual intercourse. Soft swingers prefer to keep actual intercourse between themselves and their primary partner, rather than sharing it with other people.

HOW TO CHOOSE

Neither style is right or wrong, it is just a matter of whatever is preferable to each couple. A complication can arise when couples are attracted to each other and one couple prefers open, one couple prefers closed and one is a soft swing couple. In this case, either the couples must compromise or decide to seek other more compatible partners.

Each couple has the right to choose the style of swinging that is right for them. Some want open and will only swing together and some will only swing closed and soft swingers generally don’t allow anything else. However most swingers are willing to compromise and work around another couple’s choices. If what you and the other couple want coincides, that’s terrific! If not and a compromise can’t be reached, keep looking for a match. We would suggest that you never make an iron clad rule about not doing one or the other and that you at least give it a try before discounting something you’ve never tried before - it might have some superb benefits!