Oh my god. Are you kidding me ? Just because I don't like tongue kissing means I'm frigid or OCD ? It's just common courtesy. Perhaps the girls you forced your tongue on didn't want to hurt your feelings and tell you that you kissed crappy, did you ever think of that ? What were they supposed to do, shove you away and run off screaming ? That one guy when I was 16 turned me off from it altogether, and I never had a guy be offended if I asked him not to impale me with his tongue. I got way better kisses without it, lemme tell ya !! You ought to check out that Kissing 101 link someone posted earlier, click on Worst Kisses, and get yourself an edumacation, buddy.
I stand by my assertion that you are in a distinct minority of American women. In fact, from what I remember about adolescence (admittedly a while ago now), teenage girls are positively obsessed about French kissing and how to do it properly.
Not only have I never heard a woman tell me she did not like it, I have never heard of a woman telling my friends, my sister, or anyone else I know that she did not like it, whether from myself or any other man.
In fact, I don't think I have even read about any such thing-- and I do occasionally sneak peeks at my wife's ladies' magazines to see where she gets her ideas about relationships, and bend them to my own wicked purposes.
Interestingly, I do recall seeing a story, probably in Cosmo, about how a woman can signal her man that what she really wants is cunnilingus. Sexy French kissing seemed to play a big part in the strategy.
-ccm