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NOW, we have this going on. I think it's deplorable, how certain someone's can slam other posters, then cleverly try and soften that blow with a mere "LOL" and get away with it! It's a con game, LOL!

I agree....personally, I have only pushed the abuse button ONCE in the last 45 days. And it was due to a profanity laced freepmail tirade I received from BU....didn't cause any havoc for BU, because I received two more profanity laced freepmails from BU, about 2 days later.

I of course exercised my FR Auto Sensor System, and pressed the delete button.

It was quick, easy and took up little if any bandwidth......

As "golitely" has explained, succinctly on several occasions, and based upon feedback she received from the Admin....they are mostly hands-off on posts, until they get a bunch of squeaky wheels....ABUSE BUTTONS...then they nuke the thread. The solution, is to stay above the fray, and as mentioned in previous posts, debate the substance....

As a sign of this new level of decorum, I will post the following, as a peace offering to the VDA side!!!

Basic Swinging

Swinging can be an emotionally charged lifestyle. First of all, we "are" talking about having sex with someone other than your own spouse. That by itself can be a daunting prospect, especially for couples who haven’t talked a lot about their sexual fantasies. Second, every event you attend is a test of your people skills: you must make a conscious effort to behave diplomatically, and that’s not always easy when you’re used to dealing with your spouse who knows and understands your moods and various tones of voice. Finally, finding couples whom you are attracted to and who are attracted to you is a lot like dating, you try to make a good impression, you send what you hope are appropriate signals, you ask the big question, and you might get rejected. Here are some "basic rules" to remember.

Basic Rules

1)   Never attempt to break up a couple.
2)   Set your limits and stick to them. If the other party cannot accept them, leave!
3)   Move at your own pace, don’t let someone rush you into something you may regret later.
4)   Always keep the first meeting on a no strings attached basis, but be prepared to swing if it is    mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer if something doesn’t click.
5)   Don’t lie and cheat on your soul mate. If you do you're in the lifestyle for the wrong reason.
6)   Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.
7)   Don’t cross other people’s limits.
8)   Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing.
9)   Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from name dropping.
10)   Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
11)   Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group.
12)   Communicate and be honest with your soul mate and other swingers.
13)   No, thanks, means NO! No explanation needed.

Remember a swing club is the last place to be shy. To be successful you need to be open.