My son will be an altar boy as soon as he makes his First Communion this spring. I have friends who think as you do. If everyone thinks like this and doesn't support the good Priests and Parishes, we are done for - destroyed from within. Believe me, NO Priest will be alone with children after all this. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face.
I'm from Massachusetts, btw.
I respect your parental choice Colleen.