This sort of thing (sexuality problems)is much more common in an abbey than the general public realizes. Due to people like Augustine the Catholic Church seems to have developed its character with an eye to the role that sex plays in the distortion of human intentions. True for sure, but the over concentration on matters of sexuality, not only detracts from the very real struggles that take place in the world, struggles that need an injection of good theology,but also seems to attract people with sexual disorders to the church, and especially to an abbey.This is what one notices at the graduate level in psychology. Some of the students are searching for something.
The approach of the church then starts to look rather shallow and somewhat absurd.
Flame away!