Ward, Clinton argued over what "is, is." These folks are excusing inappropriate behavior by saying it makes a difference if he says "idiotic you, or idiotic your ideas" or "satanic you, or satanic influenced you."
I say confront abusers. Always. Everywhere. Never relent.
Re: xzins's post about confronting abusers without ceasing, I am hereby posting a reply to you (since he has requested that I never again post to him).
Here's my reply: Please see my #634 and #642.