I ( a male ) think you have to draw a distinction between "feminists" and "lesbians". I have known insuffereable hetero feminists and I have worked with several lesbians that are a lot of fun.
My lesbian co-workers liked girls, they liked fishing, they liked hunting, they liked trucks and they liked football.
Except for the bedroom, they were more fun to hang around with than my wife. :-)
I had quite a similar experience, all the feminists I ever met were all married to men.
BTW have you noticed the appalling lack of quality gay bashing recently here at FR, what the hell is up with that?