Once we conservatives get onto the soggy ground of "people of goodwill may disagree" on an issue like this, we usually find ourselves being incrementally marginalized out of the debate.
You need to focus a bit more on tactics. You may think my position of favoring abortion being legal in the first trimester and not the third makes me nevertheless a disgusting facilitator of manslaughter and murder who is destined to burn in hell, and on whom if we met, you would spit on in the street as if a piece of rancid animated carrion. But while you go about trying to fashion a coalition to get rid of third trimester abortions (or most of them), or to get parental notification (parental notification should be the default position with the requirement of a court order to negate it), you should be whispering sweet nothings in my ear. You can turn on me later after my usefulness has been expended.
Does that make any sense?
Torie: really, do me a favor: don't project, especially if you're doing so just to make me into your strawman.
I have personally struggled with the abortion issue throughout my life and have moved along that very continuum your friend described. I know it exists, and I know that "people of goodwill" might even find themselves gravitating toward the right end of it.
But any serious consideration of the history of the 20th century would have to indicate that incrementalism, Gramscianism, and the various other tactics of the Left have rarely been co-opted with any success by the Right. It's hard to do good works with black magic, I guess.
Still, because I am an idealist, I hold out hope. I live in New York, and I consider anyone who even has an open mind about the issue to be a potentially. ally