Oh, and THE kindest thing that you can do, IF you can afford it, is to make your own funeral agrangements and pay for it, BEFORE you actually need it.
When your loved ones die, it is a truamatic time. Emotionally, you are a wreck, and even though you may be logical, brilliant, clearheaded , and outwardly calm , having to choose a casket, etc, the day your loved one dies ( if you are Jewish and the funeral MUST take pace within 24 hours ! ) , or a day or two afterwards ( if you are Christian ) , this is a VERY difficult experience ! I was SO amazed how much easier it was, when my grand Aunt died ( she had previusly taken care of EVERYTHING ! ) , as opposed to when my mother-in-law , father-in-law, and my own parents died.