The reason that states' rights was so important to the South is that the area they wanted to exercise their rights in was that of slavery.
Or do you think they would have seceded just to prove they could?
My point has always been that the North and South gradually drew apart emotionally, until many in the South no longer felt the "ties that bind" to the Union. The issue that created this distance was that of slavery.
Secession was in many ways like a divorce. Few people get divorced just because they believe they have a legal right to do so. They get divorced because they want OUT for some reason. The reason they want out is the root cause of the breakup, regardless of what rationale they may come up with to justify their actions.
.Your nearly got it. The analogy would be more like an abusive/controlling relationship where one mate threatens to beat the hell out of the other one if he/she decides to leave. Then they would declare the divorce laws unconstitutional. Yes, people will get divorced to get out of bad relationships.
When they are through with us, they will turn on you, these people who revile us. They will call for a new flag, reparations, and you will be made to pay dearly for the sins of your fathers, just as we are being ask to.
You will be ask to denounce your great grand fathers and Uncles and even the founding fathers as racists men with no character. It will be your history books that are revised and sanitized to fit the PC crowd, It is happening already.
My views and convictions are the front line defense to preserve your views and convictions, can't you see that?