Ann Archy, why would all the people quoted about Judge, including the city's fire commissioner, say that he was gay if it weren't true? Or is Thomas Von Essen part of the vast lavendar conspiracy, too? Are you even aware of what the organization Dignity is? Did you even bother to read the New York magazine link? It seems like unless someone shows you a picture of Mychal Judge in flagrante delicto with another man, you will be in denial about this.