So sorry to hear this horrible news. You are NOT helpless! Maybe this is a really good time to sever those family ties. Sometimes God gives you a strong dose of reality and it really tests you. I think this is that test.
Believe me, I know it's tough.....I had to do it to my son.....my only child. It was for a totally different reason but it had to be done. God hit me with a stiff dose of reality, and I made a tough decision. My life is much clearer now.
Keep the peace. Thank God for FreeRepublic, where I can shout "I AM PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN!"