As a vet, I didn't take it that way. The military executes the orders, they make no policy. Those orders have higher origins, the policy makers.
If you really have difficulty determining who he menat by 'we', then why odn't you take him at his word instead of what you would have liked him to have said?
It is fair to nail him for what he says or does, not what people assume or misinterpret his words to be.
When he said "We", that implies one of two things.
1. That we, the American people, are cowards for lobbing the missiles.
2. That the military are cowards because they are the ones that pull the trigger.
Since the citizens of the USA didn't know a thing about that, I'll just have to assume he meant the military.
Please forgive the tone of my post, I've read your post before and always thought them of sound reasoning, but you are wrong on this one.
IMHO