it grieves me that Christianity is becoming a namby-pamby religion of fear and forgiveness for the unrepentant
God knows EXACTLY how His true servants will respond, and they respond EXACTLY as HE expects. Perhaps you are not witnessing His true servants? Perhaps you are? Please consider the Book of Job.
THat being said: A close look at scripture and weighed against the actions of 'christians', should provide a proficient(sp?) division.
1st John 4:6
We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error.