There are plenty of blue states that are affordable, even California as long as you are not in one of the major cities. Same for New York, Mass, and so on. It would help you to get out and travel a bit.
It’s cheaper to live in Fresno than in Austin.
I actually travel quite a bit. If you love those states and think they’re perfect, then I am happy for you. However, looking at official cost of living data, I can assure you that those states you love so much are very expensive.