I’m a widower. My wife died of natural causes (heart rupture), not of violence, but it was also sudden, so I get how heartbroken she must be. It’s incredibly painful. If you don’t understand, be thankful that you don’t.
She probably also understand the vicious, amoral cruelty of the regime and its pet media. She is dealing with enough; she doesn’t need a political controversy swirling around her and her family.
You said it better than me. I’m sorry for your loss.