The charm I saw in MV was at their local Bob’s Donuts. San Anselmo had plenty of charm. DIL felt it was necessary to be homeowners no matter the cost. The two of them don’t make the same decisions we would, but we love them both dearly, and hope they leave one day. They’re both from flyover country.
You show wisdom by not spending too much time trying to get your son to agree his homeowner choices are not logical or maybe not even sustainable without undue sacrifice.
You would probably be correct. but each married couple has to operate by their own rules and priorities.
Better just to enjoy the grandkids and not try to change or “correct” anything unless directly asked.