That is a good essay.
I have a female friend just like her. She just reached her 70s and has never been married. She dated a really rich guy as her first serious relationship, then, every guy afterward couldn’t match up.
It’s still that way, but, sadly, she now claims she just wants someone who can take care of her, with her multiple health issues. However, she’s dated all the datable men in her smaller city, and was left unimpressed.
Some women are able to get attention from guys with their physical beauty and initial conversations, but the luster of the guy rubs off, or the guy wises up, and they part ways.
This was the world my now 70-something friend made and has now passed her by.
Physical attraction is a starter, but there needs to be more. Intelligence and attractiveness is the ultimate combination.