My wife fills the dishwasher with her stuff, I fill with my own, and I empty the washer in the morning. I do my own laundry simply to take the load off her. Works great! She’s not as nimble as she used to be. So I also do the cat boxes daily. Of course, I do all the electrical and mechanical fixing, perhaps not always as promptly as she wants, but it gets done. Her big projects are in the spring when she turns the yard in Eden, as well as the back deck. I have strongly encouraged the use of “please” and “thank you” which has taken hold over the past 8 months or so. Makes our interactions far more pleasant. ;-)
We split chores too.
I pull the trash together but mr. mm seems to really enjoy the dump run.
We share the dishes but I do virtually all the shopping and cooking. He doesn’t mind washing them, which I have always hated.
All the laundry is mine as well. I love to hang it out in the nice weather.
I grow all the food, but heavy yard work, he chips in if I need him too.p, although I don’t have a problem getting the little electric chainsaw out and trimming trees if they need it. Also running the log splitter and helping stack the wood is good exercise.
I do mostly the domestic stuff, and he takes care of the maintenance, which he was born with a gift for.
Yes, courtesy and gratitude go a LONG way to changing the atmosphere in the house.