Oh good cow. It takes at least five generations to change culturally-ingrained habits. Men have tended to things like taking out trash (which they are more likely to notice needs doing than women) while women tended to things like cleaning counters and baseboards (which they are more likely to notice needs doing than men) for at least the past two or three generations. We just naturally tend to notice what we are used to noticing. It doesn’t take a philosopher to figure that out.
There is one thing women don’t do , can not do or ever will do: Kill bugs. Women can not bring themselves to ever kill a bug. I wish someone would explain that to me.
5 generations of b1tching...
Smart guys avoid the drama altogether.
The difference between men and women is that men tend to question the point of doing things required by “civilization”, and resist doing things that are pointless - like wrapping gifts or “making” the bed.
Women do not tend to question the point of doing pointless things - they just need them done to feel at peace.
My wife and I both wash dishes so the sink is not full of dirty dishes - I do more than my share of putting away leftovers and cleaning or seasoning heavy pots and pans. But after they are cleaned and dried or drying on the sideboard, I am usually satisfied.
My wife is the one who needs everything put away where it “belongs”.
By contrast, I often feel a bit disappointed that something got put away - it would have been more convenient if it was still on the sideboard where I left it.
Same with making the bed. I don’t see the point - she likes the bed “made”. When I do help her make the bed, I skip the part about tucking the top sheet under the mattress - that drives her crazy. :-)