Being fiercely independent can be a problem when trying to help a very ill person, The fact my late husband lost a lot of that as his Alzheimers advanced made taking care of him a lot easier. Nevertheless, it seems apparent that sitting day and night in a wheelchair is creating the pressure sores, and he probably does need daily help or daily visits to help him move from chair to bed and back. If his arms are not very strong he will need to start exercise to strenghten them so he can help with the movement process or perhaps even do it himself. I use tin cans or filled plastic milk containers as cheap adjustable weights. I believe there are slings and bars that can be rigged for self movement.
Since I don’t know his age or how much of his legs are gone, I cannot guess his healing potential or how much weight he or a helper need to move around, Diabetes can be helped a lot with appropriate diet and supplements. Please feel free to Private Reply for more detailed thoughts. I wish you, Amy, and family the very best and courage to pass through this most painful time. Don’t be afraid to cry because it is not “manly.” God gave us tears for a reason. I cared for my mother and husband at home because they did not want to die in a hospital. It is not easy.
Chris can answer better than I can BUT, Jim has MD and he has very little strength in his arms. Chris lives with him and is his caregiver.
Thank you and God Bless you, Chris.
I think whoever had you as a wife was pretty lucky, as it was almost like having a doctor on standby, aside that; you also seem to have a lot of common sense what is rare to find nowadays. Just thought I mention it........