“Andy Reid’s parenting seems to have been sub-par”
So, you have insight into the family upbringing. As with all children and adults, choices have consequences, despite parental degree of influence. As the old saying goes, “you can lead a horse to the water but can not make him drink. I have 4 siblings who have two divorces each. I have never been divorced and married 48 years. They made their choices and I live with mine! I think you should give Andy Reid some slack.
Well, as the old saying, the proof of the pudding is in the eating. If it’s one kid screwing up in the family, then maybe it’s just on the one kid. Some slack granted. But if multiple Reid sons are substance-abusing losers, then doesn’t it raise questions about their parents? Sure, it’s possible that Andy was a model dad but Mrs. R. sucks as a mom. I’m sorry, but when multiple kids are screwing up, one or both parents have some culpability. I’m living in the real world. When I meet people whose children are solid people, I figure that the parents did something right. Conversely, if people whose kids are drug-abusing bums, I’m less likely to figure that the parents did something right.
It’s easy to disparage people for what their kids do. Protected by anonymity people can let their evil inner selves run free. Nobody is going to punch them in the nose if they don’t know who said it.