Not even close to equal in my experience.
Perhaps not equal. Hard to tell.
I know women who want to have the love of a man and control of their household and good respectful kids yet slut around and devote themselves to a career and make big money.
I know men who depend on their wives for their livelihood or who just screw around taking no responsibility for the women and or children they leave in their wake. And they want a clean home and good meals even though she works too or is working even more.
Children most badly damaged in both scenarios.
People can be awful, both sexes. I am of a biblical/traditional philosophy myself.