“Apparently it’s just not a job for a guy either”
I’ve served on two warships, deployed and as an aircrewman on TACAMO aircraft flying throughout the Pacific theater.
I’ve never encountered a female officer that could command the respect of their department.
Not once.
But I’ve encountered innumerable men that could...in spite of the occasional shitbird.
I have no doubt you are correct. Even with men, staff grudgingly pay some form of honors to the position even if they dont respect the position holder. With women in many traditional male roles and professions they are merely considered place holders. Most people understand why they are where they are.
Just because you or somebody declares you are boss / responsible / in command does not mean you actually are. Leadership is like respect, honor and dignity. You dont declare them, you earn them.
He was my weapons office ... just sayin